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Featured Company – Tantus

If you’ve ever Googled the words ‘adult novelty’, ‘sex toy’, ‘vibrator’, ‘sexual aid’ (or any of the other terms used to describe intimate accessories), I’m pretty sure you found yourself wading through pages upon pages of manufacturers and online stores touting that they were the “#1 Store For Sex Toys” or the like.

Upon taking the chance and clicking through, I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them looked pretty, seemed organized, offered affordable or competitive prices and included things like free shipping or added ‘free gifts’, but that doesn’t always mean they’re a decent company that puts the customer first. Simply put, being esthetically pleasing and having catchy online gimmicks can be deceiving, especially when it comes to sexual wellness products.

Having said that, I’m not here to air anyone’s dirty laundry or bash specific companies, I did that in my Open Letter To Manufacturers, Retailers and Consumers. Instead, I’ve decided to compile a list of my favorite manufacturers and retailers in the hopes of removing the guess work and making your shopping experience safer, more reliable, eco-friendly and hopefully stress free.

Rather than just providing links I’ve decided to create a series of featured articles that highlight many of my favorite companies; some make the goods (manufacturers), others simply buy and resell them (online/offline retailers). Regardless of the type of company I’m covering each referral is based on personal experiences, with no part being influenced in any way, be it financially or with me receiving products for the positive endorsement. I’m doing this of my own accord. Consider it my way of saying thank you for all the years of support from the companies that believed in me and showed me what the industry could look like if more people were better educated on all things related to sexual wellness and well being.

For my very first feature I’m going to be covering a company that I’m a huge fan of, and have been for years and years, Tantus Inc.

Personal Experience

One of the very first manufacturers I came to love and respect was Tantus, and for good reason; not only did they make some of the very best platinum grade silicone products on the market, they also took environmental responsibility and customer satisfaction seriously – areas that were definitely lacking in an industry overrun with big companies all looking to make a fast buck.

Outside the realm of ‘customer service’ they also worked hard to let the staff of retail companies know how valued they were; whether it was fun contests arranged to help motivate sales, the willingness to directly answer questions, provide a mini seminar on their products at a company arranged event or simply helping us to become educated on the varying materials, the folks at Tantus (mostly Mike and Metis) never let us feel like just another cog in the wheel. It was their attention to detail and personal growth that made me and every other staff member feel appreciated and important, something I remembered long after I had moved on from the brick and mortar store where I worked.

When I finally moved into creating videos Tantus was one of the very first companies I did a review for – on my own time, with my own product, bought with money (being a College student made purchasing products something that was few and far between). Not long after the video was online I unexpectedly received a box with a bunch of new products and a short card that read “thank you for all your hard work, we hope you like these – Tantus”. Once again the folks at the company had far exceeded my expectations, becoming the very first company to show support for what I did as a reviewer and educator.

*Note: to hopefully help motivate my fellow reviewers who may be having a hard time getting companies to invest in you, be it with product or financially, I want it to be known that for the entire first year that I made videos very few companies were willing to take a chance and help me grow (though that was almost 6 years ago and things were very different). Pretty much every letter or email I sent requesting a product was met with a politely worded rejection letter, and that’s when I was ‘lucky’ enough to get a response. It was due to companies like Tantus, who saw my potential from one little video, that I was able to grow and eventually make an honest living doing something I love – something I have never forgotten!

Over the years I’ve created quite a few reviews for Tantus products, be it written or video, and very rarely have I been less than enthusiastic about the product I was covering (the Little Secret Whisper was the only one that left me wanting).

Online Offerings

Being a relatively simple website compared to others on the market is just one of the many things that makes their online store top notch. Not only is it very easy to navigate, the streamlined design allows the customer to find what they’re looking for without getting lost within the pages. There are no heavy banners or distracting .gif images, no complicated or overwhelming product descriptions, no sexually immature wording or sexist leanings; instead, the website is gender neutral and gives male shoppers the opportunity to browse body safe anal products without being stereo-typed as ‘gay’.

*not that being gay is a bad thing, but instead to point out the fact that many other websites still haven’t moved forward in their thinking and accepted that many straight men actually enjoy anal play.

Aside from manufacturers offerings the website also has some fun educational features like a video entitled “Not In Your Butt”, hosted by DuckyDooLittle (I love her!) which explains what you shouldn’t stick up your butt, an information page that helps customers learn what it means for a product to be healthy for both the body and the environment (or “Healthy and Green”), a closeout section that offers some amazing deals on a selection of fantastic items (sign up for their newsletter so you’ll know when big deals go on – trust me on this one!), and a page devoted to Sex Ed articles written by Metis back in the day, that still ring true today.

The Goods

Tantus products aren’t the only things found on the site, between body safe lubricants, bath products, games and gift options, harnesses (for couples play), and some amazing metal goodies, there’s lots to choose from. For those of you questioning why I might be mentioning this; with the amount of attention the folks at the company pay to eco-friendliness, quality and body safety, you can rest assured that they will only offer the very best of the very best. Aside from that, you can do most of your shopping in one place without any worry or extra shipping fees.

For those of you that value discretion, each Tantus product comes respectfully, professionally and beautifully packaged in clear a box that shows it off the way it deserves.  There’s nothing that’s rude, unprofessional or embarrassing, only the word “toy” and some suggestions regarding what the product may be used for. You could definitely buy any of the products and not have to worry about what someone would think should they come across them unexpectedly.

*Not that owning toys is anything to be ashamed of, shit in my world it’s something I’d congratulate you for!

Taking it that extra mile, each product is shipped in a plain brown box, with nothing on it that may alert the delivery person or receiver to what’s inside. Just another small detail that makes them so fantastic!

From anatomically correct butt plugs to ergonomically designed dildos, a variety of products specifically for males to any of the other products Tantus manufactures, you can rest assured they’re quite possibly some of the best sexual wellness products you can get your hands on.  Designed with your pleasure in mind, each offering is free of the harsh chemicals you’ll likely find in lesser products made by big name corporations, while also being free of latex (great for those of you with latex allergies). They’re also virtually non-porous (meaning they don’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria) and make clean up a breeze.  If that wasn’t enough, they’re also waterproof, odorless, hypoallergenic, hygienic and non-toxic. Basically put, they’re amazing and everything you want in an intimate accessory!

Although the vast majority of the products created by Tantus are Ultra Premium silicone, they also manufacture a line of aluminum beauties called Alumina, with each one being interchangeable (as Ducky Doo Little said, “they’re like tinker toys for your butt!”) and providing a large assortment of options when it comes to your exploration in the bedroom or beyond.

Final Verdict

Whether it was taking a stance and helping to educate consumers and resellers, making a concerted effort to offer the best of the best in regard to quality, ease of use and safety, choosing not to use words like ‘sex toys’ and instead calling items sexual wellness products/intimate accessories (which helps elevate the general concept towards sex/sexuality) or being one of the more eco friendly manufacturers within the industry, Tantus has consistently demonstrated what it meant to be the best of the best.

If you’d like to help support great companies that work hard to maintain an air of professionalism, value discretion, understand their customers and offer some of the most badass products around, I highly suggest you keep Tantus Inc in mind. You’ll thank me for it later.

My Haul Of Tantus Toys

*pictured above (back row left to right): Tantus Flex, Tantus Cush, Tantus Little Secret Tease, Tantus Little Secret Kiss, Tantus Little Flirt, Tantus Ripple, Domo Kun (PHOTO BOMB!), Tantus T-Rex (it’s a BEAST!), Unnamed Tantus Prototype (YAY for feeling special!), (middle row) Advanced Tantus Beads (in ELECTRIC BLUE! the picture does not do them justice. I have no clue if you can get them anymore *sad face*), (front row left to right) Tantus Curve, Tantus Ryder (I managed to get the badass Neon Green in a closeout sale. Lucky me!!), Tantus Silk Small, Tantus Faerie (no longer available – it’s clear with SPARKLES!!), Tantus Charmer, Tantus Stroker XL.

Not pictured but part of my collection (I couldn’t fit it all in one pic): Tantus Vamp, Tantus Acute, Tantus B-Bomb (It’s too big. I’m working my way up to it), Beginner Cock Ring, Bend Over Intermediate Kit, Tantus Delta, Tantus Theta, Tantus Pi, Tantus Omega, Tantus Deuce 1 and 2, Tantus Goddess, Panty Play, Tantus Little Secret Whisper, Tantus Little Secret Touch, Tantus Little Secret Spoon… I’m sure there’s more I’m forgetting.

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YouTube Update

Before I start this post I just want to send out a huge thank you to all of the folks who wrote to YouTube (last I counted we were 717 strong), created videos, signed my petition and offered support when I needed it most. Without you I don’t think Sex Ed 102 would be what it was, is, and will grow to be (new videos will be out soon, my comp hates me right now and I can’t edit anything until I get it back. Until then, laptoppin it).

As for YouTube, after months of unanswered emails and the assumption that they just didn’t give a shit about me, you, or offering honest, helpful, informative and non judgmental sex ed/advice to the deserving masses, I received the unexpected – a letter from YouTube (though I’m damn near positive it’s auto-generated):

Hi hollidaychild,

Thanks for your email. Your “hollidaychild” account has been suspended due to repeated or severe violations of our Terms of Use and claims of copyright infringement. Suspended accounts cannot be reinstated. Federal law requires that we terminate accounts when there are repeated claims of copyright infringement. Because you have had other videos rejected in the past, we are unable to reinstate your account. Users with suspended or terminated accounts are prohibited from creating new accounts or accessing YouTube’s community. In order for your account to be reinstated, you will need to resolve at least one of the following video removals.

The following videos have been removed from your account:

Penalty 1:
“Exploring the Female Body” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhhuG7i1Ea0
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 08/25/2009.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

Penalty 2:
“Vaginal Stimulation” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RE0bmHKiVc
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 11/11/2009.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

Penalty 3:
“ANAL BEADS” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaOnr12eoxA
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 11/11/2009.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

Penalty 4:
“Purring Thrusting Panther” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pgGAQFb1Bxw
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 11/03/2011.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

Penalty 5:
“Sex Ed 102 – Blooper Reel” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQx-LjNin6k
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 11/06/2011.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

Penalty 6:
“Tenga Soft Tube Onacup” formerly at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cplIW_JecA
Removed for violating our Terms of Use on 11/07/2011.
Please see http://www.youtube.com/t/terms and http://www.youtube.com/t/community_guidelines

IMPORTANT: If you feel a content owner has misidentified your content as infringing, you may be able to resolve one or more of these penalties by filing a counter-notification. For more information, please visit our Help Center article about counter-notifications at http://help.youtube.com/support/youtube/bin/answer.py?answer=59826.

Regards,

The YouTube Team

Now here’s where I have a few problems:

First of all, there were no “claims of copyright infringement” on any of my Sex Ed 102 videos. Ever. Not a one. And being that the music in my intro/outro was written by my husbands band, with numerous permission forms sent in to state that I’m allowed to use it, I can’t see why they’d even suggest that. (You can find Methodology’s music here <- shameless plug).

Secondly, that whole “Federal Law” line is a complete load of horseshit. Yeah, I said it. Horse. Shit. I know of numerous YouTube Partners and creators who have used music without permission, yet got nothing but a slap on the wrist. Furthermore, being that there couldn’t have been repeated claims of copyright infringement I second the statement that it’s horse shit.

Third, and I think the one that pisses me off the most, since when is educating females about their body in a respectful, professional and informative way a “severe violations of our Terms of Use”?? No, seriously?? I mean it. Type the words “Female Sexuality” into the YouTube search bar and you get over 10 pages filled with videos. Yet my video “Exploring the Female Body” was so inappropriately done that it violated the Terms Of Use??? WTF YouTube. What. The. Fuck! I’m sorry but this shit just ain’t right. How’s about you get it together and start focusing on removing videos of booty clappin (even though their hilarious when drunk), animal cruelty (don’t watch any of the videos unless you want to end up crying into your tequila for an hour while forming a serious hatred for human beings), girls that could be 12 dancing on their webcam (for the record I’m not against webcam work, but when you cant determine the age of the person – yeah, it’s a no g0 in my books), and violent videos of people getting beat up (um, I’m sorry YouTube, but in case you didn’t notice this bullshit is against your “Community Guidelines” as per the statement “Graphic or gratuitous violence is not allowed. If your video shows someone getting hurt, attacked, or humiliated, don’t post it.” considering the one video I posted has 145,000 views I’m pretty sure someone at the office has seen it by now and yet didn’t remove it #HYPOCRITICALBULLSHIT). And that’s just the tip of the ice berg.

While I’m ranting about the crap you can find on YouTube, let me not forget to include the following as it seems like another pile of steaming horseshit that this is making shit tonnes money via the Partner Program, yet my content is perpetually flagged, removed and censored: For those of you that don’t know of KassemG he’s one of the ‘elite’ YouTubers who went big a few years ago. I lost track of him after he made a video joking about rape (go about 1:40 in then watch), but apparently he can make videos interviewing female porn stars. Yet I can’t teach women to love their bodies. Go YouTube, you’re doing a fantastic job in the liberation of female sexuality!! <- I’m spitting venom as I type that. *for the record the videos aren’t that bad, and in some cases fairly interesting since you get to see the girls from another perspective not spread eagle. But still, he can do that but I can’t inform. Nice. Real nice.

Fourth, the fact that they removed a “Blooper Reel” for “violating our Terms of Use” is so beyond bizarre that even I can’t get my head around it. Since when in the hell did a blooper reel violate a Terms of Use? Furthermore, why is it that the other two blooper reels I made stayed up (even being offered Partnership and ad placements) yet this one was so terrible it needed to be removed? It’s this kind of b.s. that makes me seriously question if they’ve got rabid monkeys throwing shit as their approval department. No, it can’t be. Even a damn monkey would know this wasn’t worthy of removal.

Fifth, how in the hell do videos that were removed 2 years ago still come into play?? This is one thing that seriously baffles me when it comes to how YouTube conducts itself. Maybe I’m wrong but I think that there should be a time frame where previous video removals are no longer an issue so long as there have been no infractions in at least 6 months to a year (from when they were flagged/removed).

Sixth (God this numbering thing is just getting stupid), being that YouTube has a flagging system for ‘mature content’ why don’t they just flag the appropriate videos and keep them online for those with a mature mindset or parental permission to see? It seems to me that would be a far more realistic option. On that note, considering that others like Dan & Jenn, Dodson & Ross, Kicesie, LaciGreen (of Sex+), Davey Wavey and others get to create sex positive content, why is it that mine is flagged, removed and terminated? Yet another steaming pile of hypocritical horse shit if you ask me.

*no hate to those I mentioned (I actually support them all), I just think it’s bullshit that others can create topics on Sex Ed yet I can’t.

Finally, if intimate accessories are off the list of what’s accepted by YouTube why is it that typing the words ‘sex toy’ generates over 10 pages worth of hits, “vibrating butt plug” over 7 pages worth of hits and “g-spot vibrator” gets over 10 pages worth of hits? Okay, wait, let me get this straight: my videos have been flagged, removed and actually had the entire account terminated, yet there’s still pages upon pages of reviews and sex toy videos on the website? Clearly I’m being made an example of, that or someone in their offices seriously hates me. Either way, it’s totally uncalled for, unfair, and silly .

*for the record, in the past numerous ‘review’ videos of mine had been flagged and removed, only to be reinstated with the ‘mature content’ once I wrote to my contact within YouTube. They even gave my Fleshlight video a preemptive ‘mature content’ rating before it went live just so it wouldn’t be removed by the system, leaving me to believe that helping men jerk off is okay, but helping women do the same thing is bad. Good on ya YouTube!

As per the last sentence in the email they sent “ In order for your account to be reinstated, you will need to resolve at least one of the following video removals.” I sent an email to all of my YouTube contacts stating why I feel they were in the wrong, how my videos are important and emphasized the fact that from day one my intention has been to help, guide, inform and provide a safe space for learning about ones self, their partner or any other sexually related topic they seek to learn about. There is no way I’m going down without fighting for something I believe in, and I believe in this.

We’ll see what happens…

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Cyberflesh Mouth & Breasts

Weird Sex Toys

While struck with insomnia a few nights ago I found myself tweeting images of horrible sex toys I’d found. Then this thing happened and I just couldn’t help but create a blog post for it. Yes, it was just that bad.

I mean, very rarely am I totally perplexed by a sex toy, but this thing. MY GOD! This thing just leaves me all kinds of speechless & bewildered.

I mean, WTF is it? A duck billed platypus mixed with a fish, mixed with a creepy boggly eyed hand muppet puppet (look at it upside down), fused with a cheap ass rubber chicken?

After staring at it for some time I think it’s what the remains would look like if I was on acid, tripped balls, had a paranoid freak out moment where rabid unicorns were after me and thought they’d caught Animal and skinned him alive . *shudders*

It’s just wrong. Every kind of wrong. Every. kind.

And really, is that supposed to look like warts on the wrist part shaft? Because it does. And it’s obscene.

I’d like to find the person that created this and shake the shit out of them while screaming angrily: “wtf is wrong with you?! Why in the name of all that is holy would you manufacture this?! You’re part of what’s wrong with the industry!” Then I’d break down and cry. Like a baby in the fetal position.

Of course this isn’t the only scary sex toy out there, for more check out  The Concubine and Mr.Jack – they’re hideous in every way possible.

Kara Sutras Toy Store

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